Reconnect With Your Rock

(the farm house outside of Clovis, where I lived until 8th grade)

Last weekend, Jacqueline and I went to Clovis to see my grandmother, Billye Coffman.  

She raised me from the age of four, and taught me many of the success principles that account for my life's output.  Seriously.  That and the seven books she had in our home library.   She always told me that she was 'my rock of Gibraltar.'  She would be there for me, with advice and without judgement.  I could ask for anything, but sometimes the rock says no.  

Throughout my life, that rock has steadied me.  Since then, I've found more rocks in my life.  Their willingness to offer support without judgement is a source of my strength.  It allows me to relax for some easy power in life.  

Visiting Billye was my reconnection with the rock.  I spent time with her, driving her around Clovis to visit places from our time together.  The rock has a context: Time and place.  Just to see her isn't enough - I need to travel in that time and space with her for a minute to regather the feelings and recollect the inspiration that came from it.   It's totally worth it too: I'm more inspired than ever to share her story (Today We Are Rich).  I don't feel 'lucky in life' because I know that I've been steered by my rock(s), who all intended for me to be exactly who I am right now.  It was a priceless experience.   I come home feeling refreshed and compelled to be a rock for others - from family to friends.  

A recent article in Scientific American Mind suggests that going back in time (Nostalgia) is a good idea in many cases.  It can build your confidence through your supportive context embedded in your history.  

Here's your takeaway: Find your rocks and reconnect with them.  No matter your situation, you have at least one person in your life who you can/could depend on.  You drew strength from him/her and often received on-point life/biz advice.  Reach out to that person by the end of October, face-to-face if possible.  Express your gratitude and  be open to learn something from the exchange.  Tour the places the two of you shared.  Take pictures and recollect little details from your past.  Fresh from the trip, identify at least two people in your life - and tell them you will be their rock.  

It may be the best way we can give back. 

 

This is a concept that's included in my next book, Today We Are Rich.   Visit the book page and you can pre-order a copy and receive a free eBook excerpt with an entire principle!  You can also visit its facebook page too.